i need an advice?

Category: Dating and Relationships

Post 1 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Thursday, 07-Apr-2005 17:05:18

How can you move on if tiu still love the person? How can you handle that fact that your now just friends but you still have feelings for ech other? its just hard .

Post 2 by Stone Cold (Generic Zoner) on Thursday, 07-Apr-2005 19:41:00

Hey, It's funny that you ask that, because I'm going through the same exact thing. My girl friend and I recently broke up, but we want to remain friends. It's hard when you both are trying to move on, but feelings tend to get in the way of that. I've handled it by finding things to occupy my time, and by talking to my friends about it. I hope it gets better for you. I know how it is, so, if you need to talk to someone about it, I'm here. Jimmy

Post 3 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Thursday, 07-Apr-2005 20:46:10

i think finding other things to occupy your time with really helps, along with realizing that everything will fall into place soon enough.

Post 4 by charisma (Here today, gone tomorrow.) on Thursday, 07-Apr-2005 21:10:45

Hey,
I don't know you but i've been through this before, and it's not easy.
The best advice i can give you is to try and give yourself time to heal, to start to put it in to perspective, and view that person as someone who is well, like an old friend, or just someone who you care about, and not the man you were in love with. sometimes laying those feelings to rest can be one of the hardest and most difficult things to do, but from personal experience, I have found that it is very hard and extremely painful to try and continue the friendship when those feelings are still very fresh and strong.
For example, what would happen if that guy fell in love with someone else? It's very hard to be objective and be a friend, and play the role of a friend, when your heart is breaking and you are hurting because you love him and he loves someone else. It's a very painful thing to have to go through. Even if you think, ok, I care about him, I want to be there for him, I can deal, and you try, it can blow up in your face if you haven't had time to get over your feelings for him.
so, sorry for the novel, I just wanted to make my point and give you a few examples lol.
So, time and space can and does make a big difference in getting over someone.

Post 5 by saiyan4414 (the Zone BBS remains forever my home page) on Thursday, 14-Apr-2005 22:55:17

Just try to move on and leave it up to God and it'll fall into place.

Post 6 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Sunday, 22-May-2005 18:50:37

thanks for all your advices, sorry it took me a very long time to reply.